Lessons Learned (just not by me)

I WAS going to post a book review today, have decided otherwise. One of my family members is still going through this, and I want to let y'all know, in case you didn't already.

Have you ever dated anyone? Girlfriend, boyfriend? Personally, I never have, and so this is an objective point of view. Inexperienced or objective; I don't care how you see it.

If your Significant Other (hereby known as SI) is mean, insults you, has dumped you more than once in the past, cheated on you, and/or hurts you, then you should DUMP him/her. I can hear the complaining already; But we LOVE each other. It's not serious, just a little problem, we'll get through it. Love is only love if it is shared, and if they don't respect you, then they don't love you.

All of the problems I stated above are perfectly serious. No one has a right to hurt you, no matter who you are. If they're cheating on you, then you aren't in love; you're just one out of two. Also referred to as lust, when they don't care who it is they're loving. Insults- if they're casual, then they're treating you like a sibling or a friend. If actually meant to hurt you, then they just don't like you. Goodness knows why they're dating you if they don't like you.

If they keep breaking up with you, then coming back, you should reject them. They're not healthy, like pouring sugar on Fruit Loops. If they can't make up their minds, then you can decide for them. If SI thinks that's alright or keeps saying sorry and begging for forgiveness, that's worse, in my opinion. It doesn't matter how many times you say sorry; you have to mean it. And, obviously, it's not all right to hurt someone like that. 

Which brings me to point C. If they are actually hurting you, physically or verbally, that's abuse. You need to get help, go tell a trusted person(s). I know that it's hard to get outside help, but it's not just for your benefit; it's for SI's as well. And NEVER think it's your fault. It's no one's fault, or the SI's fault. You are a victim, a sufferer, the wounded party. Well, how would you know? You can trust me on this point; I'm not a genius, I'm not stupid, but I know the victim is never at fault.

I know, I've never been in love, I don't know what it's like. But you can't move on if you don't let yourself. You have to let go of them they are no good, so you're not hurt. Seeing my family member in one of these situations kills me, so remember that your family and friends are there for you if you need it. And if you think you're completely alone, I will be here to listen. Don't let yourself be miserable because you don't think you have the strength to let go. Sometimes it's harder to keep holding on.

I end this "love hurts" lecture with a quote:
"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." -Oscar Wilde